If you are in a difficult marriage situation and are looking for a real fast way to salvage your marriage and live happily ever after, then keep looking. I can not help you. Usually complex problems are not solved with simple solutions. There is no miracle potion that will make all troubles and bad times go away. Having a healthy, happy relationship takes consistent daily effort and mindset to make it work.
However, the more complex the problem, the more important it is to focus on and work on small details. You should never try to address the entire problem at once, as the root of the problem can often be deep into other problems.
In this article I’ll show you three reasons why dealing with the small details is a better idea, and why not try to address the root of the problem.
1. Instant gratification. You can see results instantly and this will keep you motivated until you finally address the main problem. Like I said before, be prepared to take a long time to consummate your marriage. So if you try to fix the entire problem, you won’t see results for a long time. On the other hand, by working on one thing at a time, you will see success fairly quickly and this will keep you motivated until you reach your goal.
2. You can do this now. The saying goes, “Don’t postpone tomorrow, what can be done today.” There is nothing worse than leaving it for tomorrow. Do it today and it won’t develop into a bigger problem. Big problems need big solutions and big solutions should start now.
3. Damage control. It is possible when working to find solutions to your problems that you will not always succeed .. No matter how good your intentions are, many plans fail. If you are looking to solve a big problem and not succeed, you may not get another chance to make things right..but when you focus on the details and not succeed, it’s not a big deal. Maybe it didn’t cost a lot of money, or a lot of time, or a lot of effort !!!!
If you have been in a difficult marriage for a long time and are looking for a quick way to save your marriage, you probably won’t find it. It is best to consider ameliorating some minor issues in your marriage. These things you will see immediate results from and can start now. If you don’t solve any of these little problems as you thought you’d still be in the game. By moving from success to success, you will eventually achieve the marriage you want and deserve.
Dealing with small problems will also help you know how to avoid these problems in the future and thus strengthen your relationship even more.
Source by Shevach Pepper