If your husband does not show you any love, you may feel as if you were living alone in your marriage. Many couples reach a point where their marriage dynamic shifts from being loving and intimate partners to being co-parents and roommates. It’s emotionally difficult, and unless steps are taken to correct it, the relationship will slowly become more and more fragmented until eventually the two of you rarely talk or it appears that divorce is the only logical step.
When your partner shows no love for you, it can be easy to blame yourself. As women, we often think that the degree of satisfaction and happiness we feel in our marriage is our own making. If you have recently gained weight, start complaining about something with your partner or become more emotional in response to outside pressures, you might think that this is the only reason why your partner is emotionally withdrawing. Probably not at all. A lot of times, what really happens is that your husband is going to get away as he faces his anxiety.
Have you noticed that your husband is getting more weird lately? Does he seem less impatient with everyone, not just you? Does he seem anxious when you look at him? Any of these are signs that your partner is dealing with his own problems and this may in fact be the reason why he is showing less empathy and sympathy for you.
Talk to him without pressure. Let him know you are available if he needs your help. Give him some space and some space to work through what he’s facing. If you can figure out what’s a part of him, then take it upon yourself to help him.
It is important not to treat him like a child though. You want him to be able to handle his own problems without fear of you being completely up and running. Your role should be that of a supportive wife, friend, and close friend. Help him without judging him.
By communicating with your partner, even when he is less kind to you, you are showing him that you love him for better or for worse. Sometimes, that’s all a man needs to open up emotionally so he can share how he feels with his wife. Be there for him and treat him the way you want him to treat you. It may only help him learn by example.